Understanding and Coping with Breakups

A breakup is a situation in which a relationship comes to an end abruptly. A breakup links to a heartbreak.

Experiencing a heartbreak is quite a devastating feeling with lots of repercussions. It could lead to stress. Mental disorder, abnormal loneliness and in some cases SUICIDE.

A breakup can never be predicted. No matter your status, married or in a relationship, you still cannot predict or prevent a breakup.

The feeling could be compared to losing a game in a bettor worse. Breakups are complex and are not easily understood. Problems, arguments or issues do not need to arise for a heartbreak to happen.

Most times, they just come.

Some say, “My partner is perfect”, “My boo loves me”, “He can never leave me”. Your relationship seems smooth, most people envy your love and even wish to be in your shoes.

Suddenly, it comes quicker than lightning, you discover that your partner

Is cheating

Never loved you

Used you as a source of money

As a source of protection and popularity

Developed feelings for another

Has met someone better

Has gotten tired of you

Decides to forget about you

Then breakup is inevitable.

No matter the level of love and bond in a relationship, you can never know your partners mind. This issues can come up at any given time and it brings lots of pain and more.

I give you four major causes of breakups

55% of Breakups are caused by Partners

In this situation, breakups take place easily because they are much tendencies ranging from

-No time in a relationship

-Cheating in a relationship

-Strange character

-Hurt of emotions and feelings

And lots more. When one partner begins to depict such character, the other gets tired and decided to call it quits.

20% of Breakups are caused by Friends.

Friends have the awesome ability to motivate you against your will. And when control is absent, a little mistake in their presence can leave your relationship split apart.

10% of Breakups caused by Parents and Family members

This case is usually rampant when the relationship is at its peak and partners seek their parents for counsel. When parents say “NO”, it is nearly impossible for the relationship to go on.

10% of Breakups are caused by Nothing.

This situation is usually crazy, in which a partner can wake up from sleep and decide to call it quits. There is no meaningful reason, the person was not persuaded but he/she simply took that decision.

The strange feeling of being tired of the relationship just comes up. Such person begins to search for any fault in his/her partner in order to let go.

5% of Breakups are caused by Death

This comes up when death takes your adversary leaving the partner hurt, devastated, lonely, sorrowful and lost.

Above are the major reasons that cause breakups, others include traveling and distance, religion, race and others.

Some people get in a 20 year relationship and when a breakup takes place, heartbreak is inevitable. The bond can be tighter than “Brother and sister” but suddenly untimely death takes your soulmate away.

We as humans, never know what the future holds for us, but we must be prepared for anything. No situation is important enough that it would make you take your life.

No matter how turbulent it is, always remember “When there is life, there is hope”.

#Guys

You gave her care, showed her love, and helped her advance in life academically and financially. Then she goes with another guy. She looks down on you and sees you being useless.

LET GO!!!!

It isn`t the end of the world. Such feeling will be hard but do it.

#Ladies

Constant visiting, constant texting, you hardly sleep well because he is always on your mind. You always care about his welfare but such love is not being returned.

You suspect cheating and eventually find out it is true, but yet, you still give a second chance. He still does not care.

You simply LET GO!!!!.

Have God at the back of your mind and seek him in prayer for counsel.

A break up is not the end of the world, it hurts, it hurts a lot. But one must endure.

Avoid staying alone and isolate because thoughts will seriously affect you. Associate with friends, try to have fun. Visit tourist attractions and release your mind occasionally.

Ensure your partner that left does not see you down, always be happy and someone else will come your way.

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